Saturday, November 20, 2010 | Saturday, November 20, 2010

My parents are away for 2 weeks and a bit in Perth, so Nathan and I are getting full run of my old home :) My mum gave me a crash course before leaving on how to operate the washing machine and dryer, and my dad the $2000 ironing board and iron which I've given up on learning cos it's too complicated and heavy and not worth the effort.

Have you ever thought about how you'd eventually see yourself as a married adult? When I was growing up, I thought I'd be a teacher, seeing how I liked English and literature, and how my aunts were teachers for their whole lives before retiring. Then I realised English isn't so simple to teach afterall with all the nouns verbs and grammar technicalities it contains. I even chickened out on taking even one single English module throughout my whole uni life, thinking it'd either be boring or too difficult to understand. If you ask me what's the best way to teach a kid English, I'd just throw all the Enid Blyton and Roald Dahl books at him/her. So I gave up the idea and thought of teaching geography instead, where it's still fact-based but where english technicalities wouldn't really matter. But after seeing my brother and nathan's sister quit MOE, I started thinking that maybe I wouldn't last the 3 year bond. Hence HR which I've been doing for the past 2 years plus since graduation.

Of course there are still perks in my current job, where I sometimes meet interesting candidates and hiring managers. Then again there are sometimes infuriating ones or disgusting candidates who lick the interview table and I'd have to disinfect the place (ok so far there's only been one who's done that but I'll never forget my horror - how can you do that during an interview!). But then yet again don't you meet all kinds of people out there as well in other kinds of jobs. My point is, if you ask about my passion in life right now, I'd say it's to travel to US and to Europe. But to do all these, you need money. I'm grateful of course to my organisation for having provided me with a job. Getting it also wouldn't have been possible without God; I still believe up to this day that He really interceded on my behalf in May 08 in helping me during the psychometric testing and interviews. Pastor was even in my house to pray for me before I went for the interview!

After 2 years and a bit though, I somehow feel that it may be time to move on, but to what, I don't really know. If I were to be really honest though, nothing makes me happier now than to plan on what kind of meal to cook, to do the laundry etc. Is it wrong to say my aim in life right now is to be a homemaker eventually? It makes me feel a little inferior and a little ashamed to admit it somehow after having studied so many years to have such an ambition; I've too many friends who aim to have a flourishing career and I've only met one friend so far who shares the same aim. Anyhow, not that it's a real choice now.

On to happier things!

It's been 1 month and 18 days since the wedding. :) People around have been asking how married life is but I don't really know how to give a proper answer. Nathan asks me time and again if I find it strange that we somehow quarrel less frequently (we haven't had any serious quarrels at all in fact since 2 Oct) even though we see each other so often now. I think it partially boils down to the fact that we are still in the honeymoon phase of marriage this time round, and that it'd be unpleasant to go to sleep on the same bed really angry with your spouse so we try harder to talk things out and settle arguments before they get really serious. He's also been a really helpful spouse especially with household stuff like washing dishes and bedsheets; he'll help out if he sees that I need help or I tell him to help with certain stuff, and also picks me up from work if he can.

He also literally started taking care of me from the moment we said the wedding vows. For those who didn't know, I had stomach flu the day before, on the day itself and the day after the wedding and I've lost count of the number of times I puked. I'd never wish it on any other bride cos it seriously sucks to be worried about puking, especially when you're about to walk down the aisle, and wishing for your own wedding day to end and bid the guests goodbye cos all you really want to do is sleep and forget about the nausea but you still have to totter around in heels and plaster a smile on your face. I puked in all my bridal splendour before walking down the aisle (in a toilet thankfully), before the wedding dinner and after the dinner, and had to go about hungry cos I couldn't keep any food down. My head jiemei even caught the puke bug from me a week later cos she was the one helping hold my gown up while I puked (thanks esther, I know that wasn't in your list of responsibilities :p), and Nathan fell ill on the first two days of the honeymoon, that's how potent it was. I'm still a little sad too that I couldn't personally talk with alot of my old friends who bothered to come for the church wedding, some of whom I hadn't seen in years cos we had to rush through one thing to another. Ask me if I'd repeat the wedding day though, feeling well this time, and I think I'll still run away screaming. I'm glad it's over :)

So here's my two favourite pictures of the day:

My beloved parents :)

All the brothers and sisters and coordinator who were so nice and efficient :) + the girlfriend who helpfully answered one of the gatecrash questions correctly and spared the brothers one penalty.